How to start a conversation about suicide

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Recently we have had a few tragedies in the media, with the suicides of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain. It brings to light again, a topic that is so tough to talk about and often too late. Many of us know someone who has lost their lives to suicide, or has been deeply impacted by the act of suicide. Today we’re watching a Ted Talk by Jeremy Forbes about, How to start a conversation about suicide.

If you or a loved one are having thoughts about hurting themselves or others, we encourage you to call the Empact Crisis Line 1800-273-8255

Bad Luck or Psychological Reversal?

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Today is Friday the 13th, are you superstitious? A lot of us seem to have belief in bad luck, karma, or superstitions that can drive our personality and behaviors. Have you ever thought you have perpetual bad luck? It doesn’t matter what you do, but somehow terrible situations seem to always find you?

Psychological reversal is a subconscious condition of self sabotage. So instead of making well thought out constructive decisions, you seem to make decisions that will only bring you unhappiness and misery.

Does it seem like everything is going really well, and then somehow you make one decision that brings it all crashing down? This could be psychological reversal. If you feel uncomfortable or uneasy when things are going your way, or good things are happening to you, you might start to feel like your expectations are getting too high. Nobody wants to get let down or not have certain decisions that do not meet their high expectations. So instead of letting the situation play out on it’s own, someone who engages in psychological reversal will subconsciously sabotage the situation in order to have control over the expectation level. By self sabotaging, the person knows they will be disappointed and miserable, and this gives them a sense of control rather than not knowing if something will disappoint them or uplift them.

Is there anything that can be done for Psychological Reversal? According to Dale Petterson an Energy Therapist, he uses muscle kinesiology as a way to treat clients who are so focused on the miserable outcomes.

In an article on Psychology Today by Susan Heitler Ph.D;

‘Muscle kinesiology works a lot like how a lie detector test works. The client’s arm serves as a lever that amplifies the slight physical changes that indicate a stress response.’

To read more about the way Dale Petterson uses this technique to help psychological reversal, check out the article over on Psychology Today!

How the heat can impact our mood

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If you are in Arizona right now, then you are completely aware of how hot it is! It’s Summer time in the desert right? The temperatures are constantly in the triple digits, and the sun is blaring down on us every day.

Do you ever feel like the heat is impacting your mood, or your emotions, or your behavior? If you do, there is some thought behind that. According to John M Grohol, Psy D and his article on Psych Central, there is research that shows that heat waves can lead to more aggressive and violent behavior, as well as more findings of substance abuse in the hotter temperatures.

When people are hot, their anxiety seems to go down, while their depression seems to go up. And we’ve all surely experienced being extra tired, lethargic, and low energy with the increase in temperatures.

As always the best advice when it’s so hot it is affecting you psychologically, is to get indoors where it’s cool and stay hydrated. Often waiting until you feel thirsty is too late when it comes to hydrating. There are also certain health conditions that worsen in the heat, like Multiple Sclerosis. Make sure you and those around you are aware of how the heat affects these conditions, and how to keep symptoms at bay.

There are some people who are not bothered by extreme weather changes, and who welcome to different seasons. And there are a lot of people whose moods and emotions change positively or negatively with the seasons. If you’re feeling like some of this extreme heat is affecting you in a negative way, our Counselors here at Biltmore Psychology and Counseling are happy to help with certain coping and management tools!

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From everyone here at Biltmore Psychology and Counseling, we wish you and your family a very safe holiday!

#psychlopedia – divorce

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According to Dictionary.com the meaning of divorce is:

  • a judicial declaration dissolving a marriage in whole or in part, especially one that releases the marriage partners from all matrimonial obligations.
  • any formal separation of husband and wife according to established custom.
  • total separation; disunion:

Divorce is not easy for anyone involved. You might have feelings of failure, disappointment or sadness when you separate for the last time from your partner. It shouldn’t be a decision taken lightly, but one that is well thought about and carried out.

It will affect each partner in the divorce, as well as family members, children and friends. Think of this as a time to grow as an individual, and focus on the future. Learn from relationship, but don’t let the divorce be a weight you carry around your neck.

Do Parenting Right-According to APA

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We have spent June talking about parenting. Whether you are a single parent, co-parents with a partner you are no longer in a relationship with, or co-parenting in a joint relationship, there is always room to learn more. Parenting is something that is constantly fluid. It changes as time goes on, and you learn from things that work and things that don’t work.

We can spend a lot of time comparing ourselves to other parents, or even to our own parents. And that can be troublesome. Every family is unique, and what works for other parents might not be the best for you and your children. It is also important to know that you can be flexible on your parenting strategies. Meaning, they can change with trial and error, and with time.

We read a lot of articles on the American Psychological Association’s website, and we recently found a great article about 7 researched backed ways to improve parenting. Those 7 ways are:

  1. Embrace Praise
  2. Look the other way
  3. Learn about child development
  4. Do time-out right
  5. Prevent misbehavior
  6. Take care of yourself first
  7. Make time

Head on over to APA’s website, and this article written by Amy Novotney, to read about these 7 ways to improve parenting in more detail.