How to find the right therapist?

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Here at Biltmore Psychology and Counseling, we think that finding the right fit is super important.

We value the process of therapy, and we take pride in making sure we develop client/therapist relationships that matter over time.

In our video today, Dr. Melissa Estavillo talks about how to go about finding your right fit.

Dr. Melissa Estavillo Biltmore Psychology and Counseling

Tips on Finding the Right Therapist

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Interested in finding a good therapist, but unsure of where to start? Here at Biltmore Psychology and Counseling we believe in the right fit. We do our best to place potential clients in a great match with one of our therapists. And if they don’t believe it’s a good match, we will give them as many referrals and resources as possible in order to find their right fit.

Here are a few tips before you start calling around to various therapy offices in your area.

1. Ask around in your network:

Even though you might be nervous to reveal to your friends and family that you are looking for a therapist, you’d be surprised about how many people already have a therapist they see regularly. Your friends might know of someone they would recommend, or have seen someone in the past who really helped them. Whatever the circumstance, it’s a good way to open the dialogue between your friends a family about therapy and ways to help each other out.

2. Use online resources like Psychology Today:

We tell our clients about Psychology Today a lot. It’s a really great resource where you can filter your results to specifically what you’re looking for. You can click on days/times that work for you, put in your zip code, and even your insurance and it will pull up providers in your area. Other recommended resources are Google and Yelp. You can get a sense for the therapist/office by reading other reviews.

3. Look at their photos

Unfortunately we live in a society where first impressions and what we see at first, largely shapes how we think about an individual. Take a look at the pictures of the therapist on their website or their Psychology Today profiles. Is there a particular picture that stands out to you? Obviously you can’t tell the whole picture about a person just from their photo, but it’s a good way to put your instincts and gut reactions into play.

4. Is gender important to you?

Do you have a preference between a male or a female therapist? Most of the clients that call in to Biltmore Psychology and Counseling have an idea of what type of therapist they want. But we do encourage you to put gender aside because a great therapist will be a great therapist regardless of their gender.

5. Theoretical Orientation

Are you looking for a specific type of therapy? Do you have trauma in your past and are interested in EMDR (a type of therapy regularly used in therapy focused on past traumas). Are you looking to change your thoughts and focus on why you have the pattern of thoughts you have? You might consider someone who does CBT or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Generally good therapists are willing to speak to you for a short 5-10 minute call before you come in for your first appointment to explain their process and approach.

6. Do your research

Once you find your potential therapist, spend some time looking some things up on the internet. Look up their license, where they went to school, reviews they might have. You might consider talking to the therapist themselves, or calling their office and speaking to the front person.

Battling the Stigma of Therapy-TED Talk!

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This month we are talking about the bread and butter of our business, therapy! Even though it is become more and more comfortable for our society to talk about and seek help for mental health, there can still be a stigma around counseling or therapy.

Check out this TED talk today about ‘Battling the stigma related to therapy’ by Meherangiz Davar. A really great in depth talk about why we carry this stigma as a society, and how to let it go to finally get the help you want.

A Deeper Look at Couples Counseling

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Earlier this week we uploaded a video to our blog and Youtube channel where Dr. Melissa Estavillo talks about what to expect in Couples Counseling.

Why do couples generally seek counseling?

Today we’re going to expand on that a little bit! Couples seek counseling for a number of reasons. Maybe you’ve reached a bit of a lull in your relationship, and you’re looking for some tools to connect again.

Sometimes you are in a really rough patch with your spouse with non stop arguing.  You might need help resolving the issues, and helping to communicate better.

There could be some distrust or a specific event that you and your spouse are trying to work through.

Whatever your reasons are, couples counseling can be a great way to work through these difficult times in your relationships.

How do I choose the right Couples Counselor?

There are a lot of therapists and psychologists out there. Make sure you are taking the time to select someone who will be a great fit with you and your spouse. We care about fit a lot here at Biltmore Psychology and Counseling. We try our best to match you with a counselor we think will be great. But in the event that you might not be clicking with that therapist, we are happy to refer you and your spouse to another one of our wonderful therapists here.

All that to say is, do your research. Research therapists in your area. Read reviews. Talk to your friends and family and see if they have someone they might suggest. If you’re not sure, call that office and ask the Office Manager about the different therapists. They should be able to take the time to tell you about everyone, and help you decide who to book an appointment with.

Agree to go together.

Talk to your partner about what your hopes are for the sessions. Agree on going together, and be clear about what you are wanting to work through with your spouse. A good therapist will be able to talk through their approach with you both, and map out a treatment plan for the future.

Know that it might take some time to break down some barriers with your new therapist and spouse, and be willing to try your best to work through.

Put in the work.

And finally, if you’re really serious about therapy and helping your current relationship, actually do the work. Take the tools the therapist gives you and implement them in your daily lives and relationship. It is great to see a therapist on a regular basis, but if you’re not actually taking some responsibility on yourselves as a couple, you will not see success in your efforts.

Relationships are hard and require work. Having an outside, unbiased person to help guide you both, is a great way to develop a healthier relationship long term.

What can I expect from Couples Counseling?

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Hello! And welcome to our blog!

Today Dr. Melissa Estavillo talks about what to expect if you are seeking Couples Counseling with your partner. Some of us want to seek counseling but feel a little weary of what to expect.

Check out this video to see what takes place in common couples therapy.