Once the rings have been bought, the YES was heard and the invitations are made, a common next step will be to ask:

How can I help my marriage get off on the right foot?


What Exactly is Premarital Counseling?

Traditional “Premarital counseling” is a structured form of counseling for couples that are soon-to-be-married. Each session may be set with a specific topic to discuss such as communication skills, conflict resolution, finances, intimacy, future parenting skills, etc. Sessions are usually brief, between 3-5 sessions, and are didactic/educational in nature. Couples will seek premarital counseling in efforts to prevent future distress rather than discuss current distress occurring in their relationship.

Couples that are dating or engaged may feel uncomfortable discussing certain topics prior to marriage. Premarital counseling helps by providing safety, structure, and information to best navigate topics of most concern, often being: skills, conflict resolution, finances, intimacy, future parenting skills, etc.

Many couples go into premarital counseling with the hope of preventing future issues by discussing those “difficult” conversations. The research indicates that couples that are better able to understand their emotions, attachment needs and communication style when distressed are better able to heal injuries to their relationship and utilize effective repair techniques. As such, they are better able to address distress early and more effectively, leading to less long-term distress more associated with divorce.

Common Focus of Premarital Counseling Includes:

  • Inability to resolve conflicts
  • Intimacy difficulties/disconnection
  • Feelings of detachment
  • A deep sense of hurt from a specific event
  • A deep sense of hurt from numerous nonspecific events
  • Infidelity or boundary crossing
  • Phase of Life distress
  • Repetitive arguments about parenting, finances, in-laws, work/life balance, etc.

Teletherapy & Video Counseling Sessions Available

Biltmore Psychology and Counseling offers teletherapy sessions as a way to participate in counseling without needing to be physically present at our office.

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Premarital Counseling FAQ

Can Premarital Counseling Really Help My Relationship?

Being able to speak to your future partner about difficult conversations in an environment of safety, structure and information can be extremely helpful for many couples. When it comes to topics like conflict resolution, finances, intimacy, parenting, and communications, a premarital counselor can help guide each partner to better understand their feelings and emotions involved.

Discussing these prior to marriage is ideal to prevent future distress – distress that can lead to resentment, lack of emotion, or even divorce.

Is Premarital Counseling Only for Engaged Couples?

Premarital counseling is just a label – the topics discussed is ideal for a couple in any stage of their relationship – either dating, engaged, or married.

Most seeking Premarital counsoling are typically engaged, but that is not a requirement to discuss these more challenging topics.

We understand that some religious organizations require premarital counseling prior to marrying the couple. With a release of information/couples’ consent, our psychologist and counselors can document that the couple has attended pre-marital counseling.

Will My Insurance Premarital Couples Therapy?

Our office is out-of-network, so we do not accept insurance directly. However, if your insurance plan offers out-of-network benefits, we can provide you with a receipt so that you can bill your insurance directly.

Depending on the individual insurance plan, many will be reimbursed for a percentage of their payment. To determine if you have out-of-network mental health coverage, contact your insurance and ask about whether your plan includes out-of-network mental health coverage. Feel free to contact our office with any questions.

What other services do you offer for Scottsdale?

Feel free to check out our other Scottsdale Counseling services. Our counselors are held to the highest standards of excellence and bring the best of their education, experience, and professional knowledge to their practice.

Our professionals build strong relationships with each person based on mutual trust and confidence and value each person’s perspective of his or her own life. Counseling at BPC is a dynamic, active process. Counselors work with each person to understand, engage, and overcome even seemingly insurmountable difficulties, and facilitate each person’s process of transformation and hope.

Meet our Team

Dr. Melissa Estavillo, PsyD


Doctorate and Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology, Arizona School of Professional Psychology
Practice Areas: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Relationship / Marriage Counseling, Depression, Anxiety, PTSD / Trauma, Grief, Spiritual Integration, Medical Counseling

Audrey Sessions PsyD at Biltmore Psychology & Counseling in Phoenix, AZ


Psy.D. Clinical Psychology, Arizona School of Professional Psychology
M.A. Clinical Psychology, Arizona School of Professional Psychology
M.S. Mental Health Counseling, Walden University
Practice Areas: Anxiety, Depression, Trauma, Emotional Regulation, LGBTQ+, Race-Based Stress, Military and Veteran-Related Issues, General Mental Health, Couples Counseling, Multicultural Diversity and Inclusion, Mindfulness

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Susan Self


M.S. Counseling and Human Services, University of Toledo
B.S. Psychology, Bowling Green State University

Practice Areas: Relationship / Marriage Counseling, Pre-marital Counseling, Parenting, General Counseling, Anxiety and Depression, Individual Therapy, Career Decisions, Caring for Aging Relatives, Life Changes, Work/Life Stressors


M.C. Counseling, Arizona State University
B.A. English (Literature), Arizona State University

Practice Areas: Adjustment Disorders, Anxiety, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (Cbt), Depression, Disability Counseling, Existential Therapy, Faith-Based Counseling, General Mental Health Counseling, Gerontological Counseling, Grief Counseling, Individual Counseling, Mindful Self-Compassion (Msc)


M.A. Human Resources and Substance Abuse, Ottawa University
M.A. Professional Counseling, Ottawa University
B.A. Psychology, Ottawa University

Practice Areas: Trauma, Anxiety, PTSD, Grief, Life Transitions, Women’s Focused Issues, LGBTQ+, Parenting, Depression, Couples Counseling, Family Counseling, Faith-based Counseling, General Mental Health Counseling

Heather Wheeler LCSW at Biltmore Psychology & Counseling in Phoenix, AZ


Masters in Social Work, Arizona State University
B.A. Psychology, Arizona State University

Specialties: Anxiety, CBT, Depression, Grief Counseling, Couples Counseling, LGBTQ+, Mindfulness, Family Counseling, General Mental Health Counseling, Women-Focused Issues/New Mothers Counseling, and ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy)

Our Location Near Scottsdale, AZ

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Our premarital counselors apply professional expertise and understanding to provide the best holistic counseling services in Scottsdale, AZ.

A 10-min consultation can help you determine whether our services would be the right fit for you. Call us today for a free phone consultation.

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