By the time Christmas rolls around, sometimes the pressure and stress of buying gifts is so overwhelming it takes away what the holidays are really all about. Spending time with family and friends. Today on our Youtube Channel, Dr. Melissa Estavillo talks about what you can suggest to your family instead of focusing on buying gifts for everyone.
Today we’re talking about grief and loss during the holidays, and what to do to get through after losing a loved one. Click below to hear Dr. Melissa Estavillo talk about this topic on our Youtube Channel!
Managing grief and loss can be very overwhelming and isolating at any time of the year, not to mention during the holidays. Whether you have just recently lost someone and this will be your first holiday season without your loved one, or this is your 10th it can be extremely difficult maintain the happiness and gratitude that pressure us all during this time.
There are a few things to keep in mind when it comes to grief at the holidays according to Amy Morin over on Psychology Today;
- Trust that grief is a part of the healing
- Set healthy boundaries
- Focus on what you can control
- Plan ahead
- Allow yourself to feel a range of emotions
- Create new traditions
- Do something kind for others
- Ask for help
Grief is never something that you will “get over”, and understanding that will help aide in the process. It often comes in waves, and the holiday season can sometimes be a more difficult wave. As the holidays tend to be about spending time with family and loved ones, it can always be a reminder that you are missing that special someone.
It’s okay to feel sad or mad during this time. Just because it’s the holidays doesn’t mean you have to be happy and grateful every second of the day. Allowing yourself to feel the emotions that come up will help to eliminate the guilt and pressure that we often put on ourselves to “get through” something.
A lot of people find that doing something for someone else, like volunteering, or buying gifts for those in need can help fill a void they might be feeling during the season. This can help you feel like you are doing something positive with your time, honoring your loved one, and creating an atmosphere of gratitude with are all great ways to heal.
Know that you are not alone in your grief. And many other people are also going through something similar during this time. There are often support groups in your area, and if you’re here in Phoenix please don’t hesitate to call us to set up an appointment with one of our wonderful grief therapists. 480-999-7070
Check out out latest Youtube video where Dr. Estavillo answers a question from a client about how to juggle multiple family invitations during the holidays!
We’ve all seen the Charlie Brown Christmas, or are at least familiar with the famous cartoon characters. Here is a nice video on how to cope with depression this holiday season, according to Charlie Brown himself!
We are in full swing of the holiday season now that Thanksgiving just past, and we are already in December next week! Wow how time flies!
We thought we’ve give you a few different articles to read to get you through the season if the stress of gifts, family, finances etc is already starting to creep in. We hear you! This time of year can be very stressful! But we also know this time of year can be pretty magical. We want to give you the resources to get through those difficult times, and remind you to focus on the positive.
Head on over to the American Psychological Association website here, for links to some articles that are sure to help!